This might sound like a harsh question, but I found this writing exercise in my journal and it helped me to look bluntly and apologetically why I was always so obsessed about my weight but yet couldn't seem to do anything about it.
You might find this useful too. These powerful questions can uncover reasons that you didn't know and also give you the impetus to do something about it.
So, grab a piece of paper or your journal and ask yourself these three questions.
#1: Why am I overweight?
What are your excuses for being overweight? And what are the real reasons?
Rather than "I don't have time to make healthy food" or "I have to eat out a lot," recognize the feelings that lead you to overeat. For example, you're really anxious about work and ice cream calms you down. Or, your husband is emotionally distant and eating fills the void.
What people, situations and experiences sabotage you?
If you could change one thing that would make all the difference, what would it be? Is it your diet, or exercise regime? Maybe it's something really small like temptations at work that if you changed and managed it would make all the difference for you.
#2: Why do I want to lose weight?
If you say, "To look better," push further to ask, "Why?"
Maybe you're afraid your significant other will leave you for someone prettier or skinnier if you don't lose weight. But what does that mean about your relationship? Maybe you're trying to meet someone. Fine, but are there other changes you should be thinking about? After all, it's not only thin women who have great relationships, fantastic sex lives or wonderful fashion sense. When people think that getting thinner will make them happy only to find it doesn't, it almost always leads to the misuse of food and a return to being overweight.
Is it really important to you to lose weight for your wedding or for a special occasion. How important is it on a scale of 1-10?
#3: Why have I been unable to maintain weight loss in the past?
Have you ever had a time in your life where you felt like you had an ideal body? How long did it last?
Think back to the trigger that turned you from staying on a healthy program to eating out of control. Was the diet too rigorous? Did someone tell you that you would fail?
Many people have a core belief that they're not meant to be happy and so they continually find ways to sabotage themselves. Figuring out what drives you to relapse is the beginning of success.
If you need some help discovering some of these questions, then consider a coaching session completely dedicated to you and your goals for this year. If it's really important to you then do what it takes to overcome any barriers.
© Denise Duffield-Thomas
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